What’s New: May 2025
It’s Masturbation May! So this month I encourage you to pay particular attention to embracing pleasure in all its forms. Here are some things that can help you with that!
Let's Talk Group Sex!
How can we create a world of ‘free sex’, where people can have the sex they want? This was the main question I was exploring as a guest on the Free Sex Podcast, where I chatted with the host Adam about the joys of group sex. It's free to listen anywhere you listen to podcasts!
Along the same vein, I did a workshop at South West Love Fest all about THREESOMES, and how you can have a safe, consensual, and fun time! The full talk and Q&A is free to watch on my YouTube channel.
Want more resources about group sex? Look no further! Check out my workshops on group sex, where I cover navigating group sex as a single/solo person, group sex logistics, and how to unburden yourself from shame and past mistakes to embrace ENM. Also, my Patreon is a treasure trove of information about group sex, including my own personal experiences - for example, check out how I was triple penetrated at a 6-person orgy and had a bisexual threesome at Pride.
My Patreon is where I spill on the kind of spicy stuff I can't share on social media - no worries about shadowbanning here! - as well as the lessons and mistakes I'm making on my own polyamorous journey. These entries are available at the £5 Metamour tier and above.
Navigating A Breakup?
The bad news: my partner and metamour broke up in late February. The good news: if you're going through something similar, I shared information and resources on navigating supporting a partner through a breakup in my monthly patrons Q&A and how to be a good hinge.
If you're interested in the tea, I also shared what the fuck happened in my personal video diary on Patreon, breaking down what happened and why, an explanation of Karpman's Drama Triangle and how that plays into this, all the things I regretted doing which contributed to the breakup, and the difficult emotions of dealing with a hostile metamour. The way I make my videos is educational - even though I'm taking stories from my personal life, the goal is to turn them into resources that you can learn from and make actionable steps to improve your own polyamorous relationships so you can avoid making the same errors I did. I hope you find it helpful!
The way I make my videos is educational - even though I'm taking stories from my personal life, the goal is to turn them into resources that you can learn from and make actionable steps to improve your own polyamorous relationships so you can avoid making the same errors I did. I hope you find it helpful!
Time For A Throwback...
Did you know I've been non-monogamous for nearly a decade? My first open relationship was in 2016, and it was a complete disaster (as most first attempts at non-monogamy are). For the first time, I'm sharing in detail what happened, how I fucked it up, and what I've learnt from it in the years since - and you can watch the entire story of this epic fail in my most recent video diary entry on Patreon.
Audio Resources
I don't just post video content for my supporters - I also do audio content! In April I posted two audio essays: one on ambiamory where I break down what it means and how it works, and another on the character traits that make someone well-suited to polyamory.
Need Support?
If you need emotional support, advice, resources, or just a space to vent about all things non-monogamy, don't hesitate to reach out through my peer support service.
