Are You Dating a Polyamory Newbie?
Do not be your partner's only resource for information about polyamory If you're the person who's more experienced and they're a newbie. Not just because that creates an icky power dynamic where you're simultaneously their partner, but also their coach, but also because you want your partner to develop their own polyamorous identity without your influence.
That means encouraging them to read and research widely get a range of different opinions so they can formulate their own independently and figure out what their own needs and boundaries are without your influence. This will create a much more healthy and balanced dynamic between you, which is ideally what you want. And if you're the newbie and you're dating someone who's more experienced, who only wants you to listen to everything they say about polyamory, RUN!
If you are dating someone who is new to polyamory, encourage them to listen to multiple sources about polyamory rather than just relying on you for all the info. This is beneficial for everyone, not just for the reasons I listed in this post, but also because you get to see how enthusiastic about the concept they really are by how much they do research without you!
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