Is It Okay To Say “You’re Mine” in Polyamory?
Friendly reminder that it's okay to make possessive statements like "you're mine" and "you belong to me" with your partners as a polyamorous person, as long as you intellectually understand that love isn't ownership. Sometimes it's just a statement of devotion and it's not that deep.
Whether you make possessive statements or avoid them, tell me your thoughts on how you interpret the line "you're mine". Personally, I've never had an issue with calling my partners "mine" because I never saw it as a possessive word that meant they couldn't be with others as well. And, I know that many polyamorous people turn this type of thing into a kink, because sometimes a little possessiveness can be incredibly hot in a playful fantasy setting!
‘calling my lover "mine" but not in the way that my toothbrush or notebook are mine, mine in the way my neighborhood is mine, and also everybody else's, "mine" like mine to tend to, mine to care for, mine to love. "mine" not like possession but devotion.’ - @perfectlyripeclementine
Words have power, but being on the same page about your expectations so you are interpreting the same words in the same way is more important.
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