You can be Platonic and Feel Attraction
Unpopular opinion: you can be platonic friends with people you find attractive without compromising the friendship.
This isn't a post about "ruining the friendship with romance" - if you want to go for it, absolutely do! However, I believe you can absolutely confess attraction to someone, get rejected, and still have a healthy friendship afterwards if you are committed to letting go of the feelings that they would find uncomfortable or inappropriate.
And it's okay to find your friends attractive, and even tell them that, as long as you are communicating it respectfully. And if you really want to take it further than platonic territory - there's nothing wrong with a little smooching or even sex between friends.
We need to let go of the mononormative shackles that tell us attraction has zero place in a friendship, that attraction is the same thing as acting on feelings, or that you can never get over attraction to someone. People are allowed to believe what they want but in my opinion, it's not something that applies to everyone.
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