Its OK to Feel Bad when Things are Difficult
Polyamory becomes so much easier when you realise and accept that it's okay to feel bad when difficult things are happening, but experiencing discomfort doesn't always mean you have to do something about it.
Top tip from a therapist in training: learn how to sit with your feelings in the moment.
Feelings don't always require action, sometimes they are just feelings that need time, patience, and self-compassion to pass through your body. It's okay to feel bad, there's nothing shameful about it, but it's also helpful to take time for your body to settle before taking action, instead of rashly acting on impulse.
Your feelings of jealousy don't have to mean your partner needs to immediately stop what they are doing. Your insecurity about a metamour doesn't have to mean they're a terrible person you need to cut out of your life. And most importantly, you being on the struggle bus doesn't have to mean that this is how you will always feel about polyamory or that you're bad at it. Breathe.
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