How to Treat Metamours? I say be Organic
I've tried kitchen table polyamory. I've tried parallel polyamory. I highly recommend letting your connections form organically and letting your partners decide how close they want to be with each other (including not at all!) instead of enforcing a specific polycule dynamic.
Not everyone is going to agree with me on this one, but I don't believe that my metamours and I have to be besties to have a functional polycule. I've had metamours I've treated as family, I've had metamours I've seen at the occasional event, and I've had metamours that I know of but have personally never met. It really depends on the person and what kind of dynamic we want to form with each other. I personally don't feel comfortable with a partner in the middle trying to dictate what that should look like.
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