What’s New: July 2025
💥 NEW ONLINE WORKSHOP 💥
Threesomes are the world's most common sexual fantasy - but why do people want one, and how do you go about actually having one? Whether you're flying solo or coupled up, I've partnered with Seed Talks to show you how to navigate key conversations, set clear boundaries, communicate desires, and create an experience that's positive for everyone involved. From planning to aftercare, this workshop covers everything you need to know to make your threesome more than just a fantasy.
Workshop highlights:
Discover the essentials on how to explore your sexual desires in a safe way
Understand the importance of clear consent, communication and boundary-setting
Learn how to navigate discussions with your partners for a positive experience
Explore what to do before, during and after, and factors to consider as a single person or as a couple
All ticket holders get a recording to this online workshop - so even if you can't make the date, get a ticket anyway! Most importantly, if it goes well, Seed Talks will continue the collab to bring this talk in-person to major cities all over the UK!
📣 THE TRUTH ABOUT HIERARCHY IN POLYAMORY 📣
I've noticed a worrying trend in hierarchy discourse in polyamorous communities, where people are seemingly more invested in fighting over what is and isn't considered 'hierarchical' instead of focusing on the realities of couple privilege and managing polyamorous relationships in a mononormative world. Oh dear!
On my page, I'm all about embracing the nuances of non-monogamy, and recently decided to move away from using the word 'hierarchy' all together in favour of explaining the logistical issues that come up in polyamory if you are married, cohabiting, or coparenting with someone(s).
So to learn more about nuanced, real-world factors that impact non-monogamous relationships - from the layout of your home, to disability, to finances - check out this 32-minute video, exclusively on my Patreon.
💕 Q&A WITH MY NESTING PARTNER! 💕
Taylor and I recently celebrated our 3-year anniversary, and we dropped a super special Q&A to answer your questions!
We cover things like how we navigate the couple privilege from our nesting relationship, what we appreciate about the way we handle conflict, how we've supported each other through our respective breakups, and much more.
The last time we did a Q&A together was over 2 years ago when we'd been dating for 10 months, so now you can watch both to see how much we've grown!
🌶 MY SPICIEST Q&A YET... 🌶
On the 15th of every month, I do a special Q&A for my patrons answering anonymously submitted questions. This month's was particularly interesting, as I shared my top tips on pegging (using a strap-on for anal sex with a cis man), discussed the nuances of deescalating relationships, and addressed some sensitive question on exploring polyamory after the death of a partner, and dealing with an abusive metamour.
💬 MEDIA APPEARANCES 💬
I was recently asked to comment on the incendiary discourse that emerged from the kinky cover of Sabrina Carpenter's new album, 'Man's Best Friend', and to explain the reasons why people enjoy sexual submission in kink.
I was also in Grazia to explain why monthly relationship reviews are beneficial for your relationship and why they are especially prevalent in non-monogamous relationships!
And finally, I was honoured to have appeared in an episode of a podcast series "I Feel That Way Too" focusing on experiences within the Asian community in an episode solely focused on desire and non-monogamy. The podcast episode is half an hour long and is mainly centred on the host's exploration of non-monogamy, and it also includes insight from Polysecure author Jessica Fern.
But what's MORE exciting is that Michelle Mijung Kim (the host) also uploaded the full, hour-long video she did with just me and her, where I talked in-depth about Hong Kong politics (where I grew up), how being autistic influenced my perception of relationships, and dealing with my Chinese mother's biphobia.
It was an amazing conversation and I highly recommend you watch both videos, as well as check out the rest of the podcast if you're interested in the other topics Michelle shares :)
Need Support?
If you need emotional support, advice, resources, or just a space to vent about all things non-monogamy, don't hesitate to reach out through my peer support service.
