What is polyamory/being polyamorous?

The practice or desire to be in multiple simultaneous loving relationships with everyone’s knowledge and consent. You can also identify as polyamorous, which is the mindset or capacity to practise polyamory.

What are the different types of polyamorous relationships?

Watch this video and video.

What is monogamy/being monogamous?

Monogamy is the practice or desire to be in one romantic relationship. Usually, a monogamous person will demand mutual exclusivity, but not always - it is possible to be monogamous while your partner is polyamorous. For more, watch this video, and this video.

What is toxic monogamy?

Toxic monogamy, similar to toxic masculinity, does not imply that all monogamy (or masculinity) is toxic. It is a set of ideas entrenched into mononormative culture that are dangerous and unhealthy. For further examples, watch this video, this video, this video, this video, this video, this video, this video, this video, this video.

What is compulsory monogamy?

Compulsory monogamy (also known as mononormativity) is the institution of societal norms that demand everyone must conform to monogamy. Watch this video for a definition, as well as this video on the harm it can cause.

What is toxic polyamory?

There are definitely bad eggs in the community. Watch this video, and this video for real examples.

What is relationship anarchy?

It’s a life philosophy more than a relationship style. Watch this video, and this video.

What is veto power?

Check out this video, this video,this video, this post, and this post.

What is couple privilege, and how do you handle it?

Check out this article I wrote, plus this video, this video, this video, this video, and this video. I discuss a term I coined, “Couple Guilt” in this video, and I examine couple privilege in the media in this video.

What is unicorn hunting?

Check out this blog post I wrote (and read everything linked in it), and this blog post I wrote I also wrote an article about how to be a unicorn. Also check out this video, this video, this video, this video, this video, this video, and this video. 

What’s the One Penis Policy?

Read the first part of this blog post, and then check out this video, this video, this post and this post.

What is don’t ask don’t tell (DADT)?

Check out this video, this video, this video, this video, and this post.

What’s the difference between polyamory and ethical non-monogamy?

One is a subset of the other but they’re not the same thing. Read this blog post.

What’s the difference between polyamory and polygamy?

Check out this video, and this video.

What’s the difference between polyamory and a harem?

Check out this video.

What’s the difference between an open relationship and polyamory?

Check out this video, this video and this video.

What’s the difference between an open relationship and swinging?

Check out this video.

What’s the difference between polyamorous and polysexual?

Check out this video.

What’s the difference between a polyamorous relationship (polycule) and a group of friends with benefits?

Watch this video.

What’s the difference between polyamory and casual dating?

In casual dating, the eventual goal is still to pick one person. You don’t do that in polyamory - you form multiple committed relationships. Watch this video and video.

What’s the difference between an anchor, primary, and nesting partner?

Check out this video. Also check out these definition videos: anchor partner, nesting partner

What’s the difference between hierarchical and non-hierarchical polyamory?

Watch this video, this video, this video, this video, this video, and this video. You can also check out this tip.

What’s the difference between descriptive hierarchy and prescriptive hierarchy?

Watch this video, this video, this video, this video, and this video. You can also check out this tip and this tip.

What’s the difference between being “poly” and being “polyam”?

Poly is an abbreviation for a national identity (Polynesian); Polyam is an abbreviation for a relationship style. Watch this video.

For some definitions of various terms:

• Ambiamorous

• Anchor partner

• Comet

• Compersion

• Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell

• Fluid bonding

• Kitchen table polyamory

• Metamour

• Nesting partner

• Quad

• Parallel polyamory

• Polycule/constellation

• Polyfidelity

• Polysaturation

• Relationship escalator

• Single polyamory

• Solo polyamory

• Telemour

• Triad

• V and hinge

• Veto power