Why Complacency Kills Relationships
Complacency is what I find kills most long term relationships. People thinking that just because you're in a relationship now, or just because you got a ring on your finger, that you don't need to put effort into the relationship anymore? No, you still got to do the work!
Now I get it. Things become less passionate, less exciting, less new and fresh over time but that doesn't mean you can't introduce novelty into your relationship yourselves. In polyamory it's much easier to do this because you and your partners, having multiple other partners means you keep each other on your toes, right?
But people can get complacent in polyamory as well. I see this very commonly when someone has a nesting partner and they spend most of their date and fun time with the people that they don't live with. So keep in mind, don't take your partners for granted.
The effort doesn’t stop once you’re in a relationship. If you think it does, you’re doing it wrong!
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