Being Trauma-Informed in Polyamory
We don't talk enough about the fact that just because your BRAIN logically wants and understands polyamory, it doesn't mean your BODY has caught up to the values you want to live by. If you ignore this in your relationship education, you are not being trauma-informed.
As a therapist in training, it really concerns me that a lot of mainstream polyamory education does not factor in mental health and trauma when offering advice on navigating jealousy, change, grief, interpersonal dynamics, and all the difficult things that can come up in non-monogamous relationships. Some people take to polyamory like a fish to water, while other people need time to adjust. All of that is valid! It's not healthy to push yourself beyond your physical or mental limits - there's a difference between stretching your window of tolerance in a safe environment, and actively triggering yourself into a panic attack, and learning to tell the difference takes careful time and effort.
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