Love Is A Risk
“There is no safe investment. To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfish-ness. But in that casket-safe, dark, motionless, air-less-it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. The alternative to tragedy, or at least to the risk of tragedy, is damnation. The only place outside Heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers and perturbations of love is Hell.”
When people ask me how I’m able to remain so open to new love despite all the heartbreaks I’ve experienced, or how I’m so willing to “risk” my love life when taking on new partnerships that might change my existing dynamics, I come back to the fact that life is uncertain and love is a risk. This quote from CS Lewis (of Narnia fame) really resonated. In the run-up to Valentine’s I hope you love deeply, courageously and vulnerably.
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