Navigating Non-Monogamy and Kink with Vanilla Partners
Kink can be a deeply touching experience. It can be exactly what you need, almost like a form of therapy. But what if one of your partners is vanilla? When I realised the following, I gained so much more freedom and self-knowledge, and enjoy a more authentic relationship with all of my partners.
Me and my partner(s) don’t have to meet all of each other’s needs to have a satisfying relationship
That we don’t have to do everything together (especially if they’re not into the same things I am!)
That I deserve to explore my desires and discover new things about myself through the beauty of human connection
If your partner is into things that you don’t enjoy or cannot provide for them or vice versa, that’s okay - it doesn’t make your relationship less valuable and committed, and being honest about it means that you can focus on doing things that you BOTH enjoy, while finding people who actually share your interests for the stuff you want to explore separately! And even for the interests you do share, there’s no harm in learning new tips and techniques from other people 😜
(Also. You and your partner don’t need to share all the details of what you do with other people. It’s okay if you don’t want to hear it!)
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