Why Can’t I Do Polyamory For Love AND Sex?
Have you heard people tell you that polyamory is about love and not sex? Now, don’t get me wrong, I understand where these people are coming from – polyamory is a specific type of non-monogamy where individuals can form multiple romantic connections, as opposed to one romantic connection and multiple sexual connections. People get it confused, and that is very annoying.
However, you can make this distinction and educate folks, WITHOUT implying that people who are sexually non-monogamous are inferior, and being all sex-negative about it. And, as someone who has multiple romantic partners who I bang AND casual sexual partners, it seems a bit ridiculous to me to make it such a binary thing! Yes, I acknowledge that asexual people exist, and some people don’t need sex in their relationships. But for me, and many others, sex is a BIG part of how I express my love, and I also have a lot of sex without love because it’s FUN!
We don’t have to stand on a moral high horse as polyamorous people and pretend that we’re evolved and enlightened pure beings who are just in it for love. For a lot of people, sex is part of love and that doesn’t take away from the sincerity of the love. Polyamory is more about love than it is about sex, but for some people it is also about the sex, and that is GOOD!
Let’s stop shaming people for being slutty. It’s incredibly hypocritical and wild tbh.
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