So Your First Open Relationship Failed…And That’s Okay.
Hey, so if your first open relationship crashed and burned, you know you can just…try again, right?
Like, I'm not saying you have to. Do what you want. I respect your choice either way. But…if we gave up every single time we tried something new just because it didn't go the way we planned the first time, I feel like a lot of us wouldn't be doing anything worthwhile.
Maybe you were doing it with the wrong people. Maybe you've got some shit to work on. But most people don't do relationships perfectly the first time they try it, so it's okay to just give it another go.
Your first polyamorous/non-monogamous relationship doesn’t have to define you. If I had written off open relationships solely due to my first experience with it, I would have missed out on so many years of joy and true connection with others and myself. Imagine if everyone swore off s-x based on their first time, or if people stopped learning an instrument because they couldn’t play it perfectly as soon as they picked it up. Relationships are a skill, and polyamorous ones just require a more niche set of skills with that realm.
Coming from someone whose first open relationship was an absolute disaster, and has now been practicing polyamory for 10 years, just pick yourself back up, learn from your mistakes, try again.
You can do it.
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