Feelings Don’t Always Require Action
Your feelings of jealousy don't have to mean your partner needs to immediately stop what they are doing.
Your insecurity about a metamour doesn't have to mean they're a terrible person you need to cut out of your life.
And most importantly, you being on the struggle bus doesn't have to mean that this is how you will always feel about polyamory or that you're bad at it.
Breathe.
When you feel activated, everything feels urgent because it's uncomfortable - but jumping to conclusions about what this means or what you should do when you're feeling super rough is a common mistake in non-monogamy. 99% of the time, it's not actually an emergency and you don't have to do or change something about your situation.
Don't be impulsive, and take the time to learn what regulates you when you're struggling.
Be gentle with yourself.
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