Polyamorous Bisexuals Aren’t “Bad Bisexuals”
It's Bisexuality Awareness Week - so be aware that I am proudly bi and polyamorous! 💕
Bisexual polyamorous folks: just because you can date people of different genders at the same time as a polyamorous person doesn't mean you have to. You don't owe others a certain relationship history or relationship presentation. You love who you love, and you are QUEER ENOUGH 🌈
Unlike most of the people I know who also identify with both, I didn't start exploring non-monogamy due to realising I was bisexual. I actually came out as non-monogamous a WHOLE TWO YEARS before I realised I was bi! The two identities were initially not linked for me, but over time, they intertwined more and more.
I currently have multiple partners across the gender spectrum, but this wasn't always the case. When I broke up with a girlfriend years ago, part of me was insecure I was a "bad bi" because all my other partners were male. I still have thoughts creeping in occasionally of how my polyamory "looks" and how I need to "prove" my bisexuality - but I just keep reminding myself that that's internalised biphobia talking!
Polyamory is how I personally express my bisexuality to its fullest extent - not just because I can date people of any gender, but because my sexuality is less likely to be defined or assumed by the gender of my partner like it would typically be in a monogamous relationship.
Not all bisexuals are polyamorous and vice versa, but the 2 identities are linked for me 🌈
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