How Toxic Monogamy can Hurt Friendships
Have you ever been in a situation where you had a really good close friend. Then your friend got into a romantic relationship and then you started spending a lot less time together? Its something that happens to a lot of people. That's the kind of thing that relationship anarchy challenges.
Because, like, why do people do that? Why do people abandon long standing friendships? Just because they found “the one”. Monogamy is not just about dating one person at a time. It's also about guarding against all potential threats. Why not bring people into your life who respect the connections that you already have got going on, rather than trying to isolate you?
Sometimes people do it to themselves. People be will be like, “Oh, I don't want my partner to get jealous. I can't be as close with them as I used to be, because there's no misunderstanding” Why? No one's doing anything wrong. Surely, the more important thing is that you trust each other. The kinds of opportunities that people deprive themselves of the kinds of things that they turn down when they could just be open about it and be like “hey I'm gonna hang out my friend” It's fine.
It’s okay to love your friends. Friendship is incredibly underrated and deserves to be cherished just as much as romance. Whatever your relationship style, a robust support system and multiple connections to explore and discover new facets to yourself and grow as a person is key to a fulfilling life. Don’t neglect your friendships to chase a romantic dream.
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