What’s New: September 2025
🏠 WE'RE DE-NESTING - BUT NOT BREAKING UP 🏠
After living in domestic bliss for the last 1.5 years, my nesting partner of 3 years and I decided to - well, no longer be nesting partners. Don't worry - we're fine - but it is a big change, so let's talk about it!
If you want to find out why this happened, how we dealt with what it meant, and the rollercoaster of emotions I experienced throughout the process (ranging from dread and anxiety to - surprisingly - joy and excitement), watch my latest video diary update on Patreon, which is the only place I talk about my personal life in detail.
Let's step off the relationship escalator together, and embrace the joys ahead...
😨 HELP, I'M SPIRALLING!!! 😨
Is polyamory worth the mental destabilisation? Is my FWB being reasonable or controlling with what they've asked of me? How do I support my partner through their breakup with someone else? How do I carefully manage a new 1-1 sexual dynamic with someone I normally have threesomes with?
I answer this and more in my monthly patron-only Q&A. From £3/month, you can access this Q&A and the archive, as well as the 36 public Q&As I did on my Instagram with every 5,000 new followers I reached! You can even ask questions in my community chat and get advice from fellow patrons - we're all very nice people, I promise!
🤝🏻 WHEN CONSENT GETS MURKY... 🤝🏻
Have you ever been in a situation where you technically said 'yes' to sex, maybe even enjoyed it, but left the experience with mixed feelings? Well, I've been there. More than once.
I recently had a sexual encounter with someone who didn't do anything malicious, but definitely made me feel unsafe - and I compared and contrasted it to a date I had in 2023, and how my approach to asserting myself in sexual situations has changed over time. The aim of this video is to openly talk about how consent beyond "yes is yes, and no means no" - and to explore all the nuances in between, as well as outside factors that may motivate someone to say "yes" or "no" when they feel something much more complicated.
📌 "YOU DON'T GET A DATE UNTIL I GET ONE!" 📌
Something I often remind my followers is that dating is not a competition, and your experiences in the dating world are not a reflection of your inherent worth. In this month's voice note, I about an extremely common pitfall in non-monogamous dating - the idea that your dating journeys have to be "equal" and you need to enforce date limits to make things "fair" - and the dangers of this mindset, as well as how to reframe it to something more productive, healthy, and ethical.
🙏 'POLYAMORY FOR PEOPLE PLEASERS' - RECORDING NOW AVAILABLE! 🙏
Missed my live event, ‘Polyamory for People Pleasers’? You can now purchase the workshop recording in my Patreon shop. Remember - all paid subscribers get 20% off all workshops, and at the Unicorn tier, you get unlimited access to all of them!
🎪 FESTIVAL APPEARANCES 🎪
If you were at Wilderness Festival or We Out Here Festival this year, you might have seen me in the talks tent yapping about relationship anarchy - and if you weren't there, the good news is I've recorded my talks!
Watch my Wilderness Festival talk, 'Are We All Relationship Anarchists Now?'
Watch my We Out Here Festival talk, 'Radical Connection Through Relationship Anarchy'
If you're interested in my previous content on the topic, you might also be interested in my RA lecture at the University of Nottingham, or my speech at Women of the World Festival.
🤗 NEED SUPPORT? 🤗
If you need emotional support, advice, resources, or just a space to vent about all things non-monogamy, don't hesitate to reach out through my peer support service.
