Why Monogamy Is An Instant Unmatch
I instantly unmatch when people tell me they're monogamous on dating apps. Even though “polyamorous” is literally the first word in my profile, I still get random people who tell me they want monogamy after we match.
Sometimes, it’s because they assume that they will be able to make me monogamous if I like them enough ❌
Sometimes, it’s because they think I’m cute enough that they will “try it” for me even though they don’t like the idea ❌
Sometimes, they think it’s exciting that I’m cheating, and then they get very disappointed when they tell them that my partner knows everything and is happy with it ❌
Sometimes, they’re just asking me questions that they could easily Google (fortunately, as an educator, I just send them to the FAQ on my website) ❌
There are some monogamous people who are genuinely open to dating polyamorous people - I work with plenty of mono-poly relationships in my practice - but they are few and far between!
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