You Are Bisexual and Polyamorous Enough.
Friendly reminder that bisexual polyamorous folks don't owe you a polycule with partners of different genders, and aren't “less bisexual" if they have multiple partners of the same gender (whether same or different to themselves).
The biphobia has been relentless this year - and I am tired. To my bi/pan folks please look after yourselves and find bi-affirming communities if you can. You are allowed to date whoever you want and still belong at Pride.
Bisexuality is queer not because it’s “half gay”. Bisexuality is queer because it involves attraction to more than one gender, regardless of gender, or beyond gender. Bisexuals are queer regardless of who they are dating, even in a relationship that others assume to be straight. Also, bisexual people date each other in bi4bi relationships! I’ve been dating other bisexuals exclusively since 2021 and my life has drastically improved for it.
So if you’re polyamorous, whether you’re a bi woman with multiple boyfriends, a bi woman with multiple girlfriends, a bi man with multiple boyfriends, or a bi man with multiple girlfriends, you are still BI.
Just because you can date people of different genders at the same time as a polyamorous person doesn’t mean you have to. You connect with who you connect with, and that is beautiful. You don’t owe others a certain relationship history or relationship presentation. You are queer and that is enough.
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