You Are Not At Fault For Clear Communication
When a monogamous person is upset that you, a polyamorous person, still don't want a monogamous relationship just because they caught feelings and suddenly don't want to share… Sound familiar?
Sometimes, people are delusional. If you’ve ever watched the movie “500 Days of Summer”, you will know exactly what I mean. You can communicate as clearly as you possibly can what you want and what you don’t want in a relationship, and people will still project their own desires onto you and then make you the bad person when THEY were the one who didn’t listen to what you were telling them.
Listen to me – it is not your fault that someone refused to see you for who you are. It is not your fault that they were wilfully ignorant every time you clearly communicated your needs. You did your best, and it’s their problem for not listening. And most importantly, you are not a bad person for not wanting a monogamous relationship, especially if you said this clearly upfront.
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