3 Tips For Polyamorous Breakups

So your partner is going through a breakup, what do you do? Here are three tips:

1. Don't take it personally. Your partner's grieving someone else, and for a period of time, they might have reduced emotional capacity to show up in your relationship. Make space for that and try to be as patient and compassionate as you can. Because it doesn't necessarily mean that they don't care about you or they don't love you. They just are struggling at the moment, just like if they were struggling with anything else.

2. Talk to them about what they might need. People grieve breakups differently. Some people want to go out and distract themselves. Some other people want to hole up and cry and wallow in their feelings. All of that is valid. Just give them the space to do that.

3. Assess how much capacity you have to support them and whether you are the right person to support them. Depending on how you feel about the person that they broke up with, for example if you didn't like that person, you may not be the best person to support your partner through that breakup. You may even have some personal feelings about that metamour that may not be appropriate to share with your partner at this point in time. Reassess your boundaries, talk to your partner and don't take it personal.

Make sure you’re both getting support so you’re not pouring from an empty cup ❤️

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