Polyamory-Bashing In The Queer Community

Why do monogamous queer people make fun of polyamorous queer people?

The irony of insulting someone purely because they express their love in a different way to you as a queer person is wild and disappointing to me. Do you really think that straight people will accept you more just because you will happily degrade a group of people who you view as less palatable to the majority? Are you really so invested in assimilating into the system that you will leave behind the people who literally want the same things you do?

Brenda Howard was a bi and polyamorous woman and she is part of the reason Pride even exists. Learn your queer history and remember what we’re actually fighting for - and if you can’t be nice to polyamorous people, then just say nothing at all.

This isn’t about whether or not polyamory is queer, by the way - it’s the fact that there’s a huge overlap between the LGBTQIA+ and polyamorous communities, and want many of the same things. We’re all fighting for the freedom to love and express ourselves in ways that feel authentic to us, and to not have our relationships be policed or invalidated by the state. At Pride, I would rather march next to a kInky polyamorous leftist of any sexuality/gender than a gay conservative transphobe who doesn’t share my political values.