You Don’t Need To Be In Love To Deserve Good Sex.
PSA: You can have sex without love without needing to sacrifice boundaries and respect. You deserve good sex even when you're not in a romantic relationship.
I've said this before and I'll say it again - not everyone can separate romance and sex (and if you're one of those people, scroll on as this post is not for you), but if you CAN, and you WANT sex with no romantic expectations attached, then you deserve to find people who want the same thing in a safe, respectful, consensual, and accommodating way!
Personally, my longest 'friend with benefits' connection has been going on nearly 9 years, and I have many other friends where we've been happily banging for years without it being romantic, as well as close friends I used to bang who I don't anymore. I care for them deeply - just not in a romantic way (and don't ask me the difference - I have no idea, it is vibes-based).
I have enjoyed multiple romantic connections too, but sex is not exclusive to romantic connection for me and I'm very happy with that. It doesn't have to be dramatic and complicated - it's about finding the right people who match your vibe, who can communicate clearly if feelings arise, and who don't make their emotions solely your responsibility to manage or project their desires onto you in unfair ways. In the times I've been single, these connections have kept me nourished and gotten me through hard times. What's a few satisfying Os between friends to cheer each other up?
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