Polyamory and Boundaries
Hard truth: no matter what you do, you actually have zero control over what anyone else thinks and does. You can make agreements that are aligned with your values and find people who are willing to respect them, but at the end of the day, all you have control over is what YOU do.
Once you learn how to set boundaries for yourself, you gain so much more agency over your own life and the kinds of people you allow access to you.
Boundaries aren't a way to attack others or keep them out - they're a way to ensure that you're treated at the standard that you feel you deserve. You can't control other people, but you can control how you maintain your personal safety/peace by how you respond to what other people do.
There are different kinds of boundaries - some that are more hardline, and some that are more situational or flexible - but no matter what they look like, YOU are in control of how and whether they are enforced.
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