Are You Bad at Polyamory? Sometimes Your Partner is the Problem
Maybe you're “bad at polyamory”. Or maybe, just maybe, you are in an unsupportive, incompatible relationship with a partner who is unwilling/unable to take accountability for how their actions contributed to your insecurity and distress.
Instead of reflecting on their behaviour, making changes, or considering your feelings, some people find it's easier to just make you the problem. Don't take the bait.
I don't know who needs to hear this, but if you're struggling with polyamory, the problem is not always with you. It's great to do self-reflection and to be aware of how you are personally contributing to a situation, but there are some things that aren't yours to "fix". Don't gaslight yourself into thinking that it's always a you problem. And if you have a partner who is telling you that every problem is always your fault and they are not taking responsibility for their role in the situation... maybe take a closer look at their actual behaviour and trust your gut on whether or not it's really true.
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