Stop Falsely Advertising Polyamory Socials!
I have no problem with kink, fetish, and/or swinging events - I’ve attended a few myself! - and obviously, the groups overlap a lot. But please, if your event is actually about kInk or swinging, or is a sex party instead of a social event, then please advertise accordingly, instead of misleading people into thinking it’s something that it’s not.
And, if your actual intent is to do a polyamory social but you’re only seeing certain types of people show up at your events, think about how you could make other groups feel more welcome. Or whether you’re allowing certain people in the space that are making others feel unsafe and discouraged from attending.
I don’t want to walk into a space that I intended to socialise in, just to feel like I’m being treated as fresh meat. Additionally, as a bisexual femme, if the only queer people I see in a polyamorous space are other bi femmes but there are no bi/gay men or trans people, it’s giving fetishisation through the male gaze, which is NOT acceptance.
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