Your Partner May Date Differently From You - And That’s Okay.
“If my partner can get into bed with someone else so quickly, what does that mean about our sexual relationship?”
Having different dating habits and preferences from your partner isn’t necessarily a bad thing - as long as you understand how and why the other person is approaching dating the way that they are, so that there aren’t misunderstandings. How your partner acts on dates with other people doesn’t necessarily have to be a reflection on your worth or your relationship, and the best approach to resolve this is to talk things out and try and understand each other from a place of curiosity.
You are allowed to date differently from your partner, and you don't have to be doing the same things all the time. If you prefer more casual connections and they prefer more romantic ones, that's fine. If you take a bit longer to warm up to people and your partner prefers to fuck on the first date, that's also great. But the most important thing is to check in with your partner on what they want out of their non monogamous journey, to understand their unique perspectives on how they approach sex and dating, and not try and project your own assumptions onto their actions. If you need more clarification, talk to your partner.
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