Polyamory And Impulse Control
I don't know which polyamorous bisexual needs to hear this (I did!), but you do not have to date every single person that you're attracted to!
When you're polyamorous, it can be really easy to see everyone around you as a potential person you could date, especially if you're new to it. It's like:
“Oh, my god, all these opportunities are suddenly available to me! I can do whatever i want! I'm gonna go on a date with all the people!”
I don’t recommend this! Because you only have so much time and energy in the day. You might end up ruining some connections that would have been perfectly fine if you had just stayed in the friend zone. It's okay for some connections to stay platonic. No matter how hot someone is sometimes the potential drama and the consequences are not worth it.
Also, friendships are really great! They're not a downgrade for a failed romantic or sexual partnership. They are a whole other type of valuable connection in itself. If you spend your whole life trying to be an opportunistic horn dog, you are going to miss out on the beauty that those types of connections can provide. Just because you can, it doesn't mean you should.
A hard-earned lesson from your fellow slutty bisexual polyamorous ADHD girlie - some friendships are too precious to mess with. While I’m an advocate for ‘friends to lovers’ arcs, sometimes they can also get messy and end up ruining the entire dynamic. As someone who is a little bit in love with all my friends and has been in messy situations because of it, it took years for me to figure that out.
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