No, Polyamorous People Aren’t More Privileged
Friendly reminder: polyamorous people are FAR more likely to be queer and/or trans than the average monogamous population, and in general far more likely to be marginalised in other ways in addition to non-monogamy.
Yes, being marginalised by non-monogamy is nowhere near the level of being marginalised for your race/gender/disability. But acting like polyamorous people are just cis white straights co-opting queerness/oppression to feel special is just completely divorced from reality.
It frustrates me deeply when queer people shit on polyamorous people in the same way that monogamous straight people shit on all of us as a whole. Queer rights have become increasingly under threat with recent events, and the last thing I want to do is to distract from those issues. But, I wanted to point out with this post that the vast majority of polyamorous people are also queer, and seeing them as two entirely distinct groups (as some people have on the internet) is not helpful when what is needed is community solidarity.
I believe polyamory is not inherently queer - however, it does subvert traditional monogamous norms that ultimately work to serve the same goals that queer people do. And let's be real - the average straight male polyamorous dude is probably more aligned with your values than a gay conservative. Let's not lose sight of what we're actually fighting for.
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