You’re Polyamorous, Not Superhuman.
Being “good at polyamory” is not about never feeling insecure/jealous or never making a mistake. It’s about communicating with your partners, being vulnerable, working through feelings, taking accountability, and learning from your experiences.
No one is asking you to be some superhuman person who never feels or does anything bad ever. When things are getting tough, you’re stressed or tired, of course you’re going to be operating at lower capacity and more likely to not be at your best. This doesn’t mean you can use it as an excuse for your behaviour - it just means being aware of what to take responsibility for, and taking care to repair when you do make a mistake. Because you probably will and that is okay, as long as you own up to it and learn from the experience.
People often forget that 90% of polyamory skills are literally just general relational skills - which include conflict resolution and emotional regulation. Just be a good human, be kind and considerate and respectful of others, and be responsible to your wider community. You got this.😄
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