Your Partner is Entitled to Privacy
Friendly reminder that you don't have to know every single detail of your partner's date with someone else to be a good and supportive polyamorous partner. Not only are you allowed to have boundaries, but also, the date may want some things to be kept private too!
One of the most common issues that I find folks run into in non-monogamy is figuring out what their disclosure boundaries are - deciding on what you want to share, what you want to hear about, and how do the other people you’re dating feel about you sharing or hearing about these things.
I talk about disclosure boundaries a lot more in my private community on Patreon but the long and short of it is that you get to decide what these are for yourself. And they may or may not be compatible with your partners, but that doesn’t make them wrong.
I think there are some things that need to be on a need to know basis regardless of your feelings about them. But you seriously do not need a play-by-play of everything that your partner got up to. There’s a difference between privacy and secrecy and it’s important to walk that line!
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