Why Do People Hate Polyamory?
Dr. Elisabeth Sheff calls this "the polyamorous possibility" - polyamorous people simply existing causes monogamous people to make the uncomfortable realisation that they were only monogamous because they felt they should be, and they hate being forced to question themselves.
This was my response, but a few other responses below were also very apt:
“Whenever a social norm ceases to be the exclusive default option, people who ascribe to that norm find themselves having to defend those values for the first time, and they *really* resent having to do that.”
- Cred @sofiabuffgf
“1) people hate having the status quo and sense of security threatened
2) it's an acceptable proxy for hating on queer people
3) it causes them to reflect on their own life choices, they don't like that either”
-Cred @evielupine
I typically don't concern myself with polyamory haters that much as they're obviously not my target audience, but I do occasionally find it interesting to examine why they exist. The initial tweet in the title went viral online, and amongst the thousands of people who used it as an opportunity to dunk on polyamorous people (e.g. "cuz they're ugly/annoying/smelly/cheaters/degenerates/narcissists") there were some responses I found particularly insightful, particularly by @sofiabuffgf and @evielupine. Are there any other reasons you feel we missed out on?
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