I was interviewed by GB News on the topic ‘Let’s Talk Monogamy’. I cover whether humans are monogamous, how to open up a monogamous relationship, reactions from family and friends to living an open lifestyle, and the pros and cons of practising honest, ethical, and consensual non-monogamy.

For #PolyamoryWeek 2021, I compiled a list of 7 polyamorists from history. Polyamory is not a phase, and it is not a new trend. Non-monogamy has always been a part of human history.

A unicorn is a person who is willing to join an existing couple to form a polyamorous triad. The label is most commonly used for single bisexual women who join heterosexual couples, but unicorns can be of any sexuality or relationship status.

When assessing whether your jealousy is healthy or toxic, I like to compare it to eating at a buffet.

Imagine a situation where the love/time/attention of your partner is the food, and you and your metamours are the guests at the buffet, feeding on this valuable resource.

April is Autism Awareness Month, so I thought I’d talk about what it’s like being autistic and polyamorous. I realised there weren’t a huge number of resources about autism and polyamory, and decided it was time to talk about my personal experiences.

The scariest thing about polyamory is that it exposes all the cracks in your relationship. That’s why it’s so important to have a strong and healthy bond, and why people who open up because they’re trying to fix a bad relationship are doomed to fail.

I’ve been seeing a worrying trend on the internet recently, where people say that anyone who cheats in a monogamous relationship “should just be polyamorous”. Worse yet, some seem to think that if everyone were polyamorous, cheating wouldn’t exist. There seem to be a lot of people who conflate polyamory with doing whatever you want. This post aims to address why not all cheaters are “actually polyamorous”.

A common complaint I see on the internet when it comes to polyamory is, “Why is it always one man and two women?”

I’ve come across a toxic phenomenon in the polyamory community which I would like to call “revenge dating”, which is when you date someone for the sole purpose of taking revenge on, or manipulating, someone else.

A strange thing happened to me the other day. I received a notification of a new message request, and opened it to find a lengthy message from a girl who I was at school with a decade ago.

“I am not sure if you remember me,” it said. “I’ve recently been in touch with my faith again, and in the past years have had many near death experiences, which has led me to realise that I don’t ever want to leave this earth without asking for forgiveness from those I’ve hurt…”

Emotional libertarianism, as defined by More Than Two, is “a belief that every individual is entirely responsible for his or her own emotional responses and that person’s behaviour is never the “cause” of another person’s emotion.”

Polyamory, polygamy, and ethical non-monogamy are conflated with each other all the time. This problem comes up quite often on my page and the Internet in general, so this post provides a full clarification as to what each term means, and why they are so often confused.

A very common new-to-poly question that is asked in polyamorous circles is when and how to bring up that you’re polyamorous to a potential date. The answer, in my opinion, is and should always be basically immediately, no questions asked.

Compersion is best defined as sympathetic joy. Simply put, it is the joy you feel when someone you love or care about is happy, even if their positive experience doesn’t have anything to do with you (or may not even benefit you). It’s a common word used in non-monogamous circles, first coined by the since-disbanded polyamorous Kerista commune in the early 1990s, specifically for the joy one feels when they see their partner being happy in their sexual or romantic relationship with someone else.

Knowing what love language your loved one is good at will help you with compassionately appreciating the effort they are putting into the relationship in other ways, even if the language they are speaking may not be your ‘mother tongue’.