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A compendium of (almost!) everything I’ve ever written about non-monogamy in one place - so if my work on social media ever gets deleted (boo!) you’ll find most of it here! For my most recent musings, check my posts on Instagram, Threads, Twitter, or Bluesky.
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Let’s Talk Monogamy: Transcript of GB News Interview
I was interviewed by GB News on the topic ‘Let’s Talk Monogamy’. I cover whether humans are monogamous, how to open up a monogamous relationship, reactions from family and friends to living an open lifestyle, and the pros and cons of practising honest, ethical, and consensual non-monogamy.
7 Famous Polyamorists From History
For #PolyamoryWeek 2021, I compiled a list of 7 polyamorists from history. Polyamory is not a phase, and it is not a new trend. Non-monogamy has always been a part of human history.
So You Want To Be A Unicorn: A Guide to Dating Polyamorous Couples
A unicorn is a person who is willing to join an existing couple to form a polyamorous triad. The label is most commonly used for single bisexual women who join heterosexual couples, but unicorns can be of any sexuality or relationship status.
Polyamory, Jealousy, and the ‘Buffet Analogy’
When assessing whether your jealousy is healthy or toxic, I like to compare it to eating at a buffet.
Imagine a situation where the love/time/attention of your partner is the food, and you and your metamours are the guests at the buffet, feeding on this valuable resource.
I’m Autistic and Polyamorous. Here’s Why It Works For Me.
April is Autism Awareness Month, so I thought I’d talk about what it’s like being autistic and polyamorous. I realised there weren’t a huge number of resources about autism and polyamory, and decided it was time to talk about my personal experiences.
“You’re Polyamorous? What If Your Partner Leaves?”
The scariest thing about polyamory is that it exposes all the cracks in your relationship. That’s why it’s so important to have a strong and healthy bond, and why people who open up because they’re trying to fix a bad relationship are doomed to fail.
No, Polyamory Is Not A ‘Solution’ To Cheating
I’ve been seeing a worrying trend on the internet recently, where people say that anyone who cheats in a monogamous relationship “should just be polyamorous”. Worse yet, some seem to think that if everyone were polyamorous, cheating wouldn’t exist. There seem to be a lot of people who conflate polyamory with doing whatever you want. This post aims to address why not all cheaters are “actually polyamorous”.
Where Are The Non-FFM Polyamorous Triads?
A common complaint I see on the internet when it comes to polyamory is, “Why is it always one man and two women?”