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A compendium of (almost!) everything I’ve ever written about non-monogamy in one place - so if my work on social media ever gets deleted (boo!) you’ll find most of it here! For my most recent musings, check my posts on Instagram, Threads, Twitter, or Bluesky.

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Let’s Talk Monogamy: Transcript of GB News Interview

I was interviewed by GB News on the topic ‘Let’s Talk Monogamy’. I cover whether humans are monogamous, how to open up a monogamous relationship, reactions from family and friends to living an open lifestyle, and the pros and cons of practising honest, ethical, and consensual non-monogamy.

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7 Famous Polyamorists From History

For #PolyamoryWeek 2021, I compiled a list of 7 polyamorists from history. Polyamory is not a phase, and it is not a new trend. Non-monogamy has always been a part of human history.

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Polyamory, Jealousy, and the ‘Buffet Analogy’

When assessing whether your jealousy is healthy or toxic, I like to compare it to eating at a buffet.

Imagine a situation where the love/time/attention of your partner is the food, and you and your metamours are the guests at the buffet, feeding on this valuable resource.

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I’m Autistic and Polyamorous. Here’s Why It Works For Me.

April is Autism Awareness Month, so I thought I’d talk about what it’s like being autistic and polyamorous. I realised there weren’t a huge number of resources about autism and polyamory, and decided it was time to talk about my personal experiences.

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“You’re Polyamorous? What If Your Partner Leaves?”

The scariest thing about polyamory is that it exposes all the cracks in your relationship. That’s why it’s so important to have a strong and healthy bond, and why people who open up because they’re trying to fix a bad relationship are doomed to fail.

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No, Polyamory Is Not A ‘Solution’ To Cheating

I’ve been seeing a worrying trend on the internet recently, where people say that anyone who cheats in a monogamous relationship “should just be polyamorous”. Worse yet, some seem to think that if everyone were polyamorous, cheating wouldn’t exist. There seem to be a lot of people who conflate polyamory with doing whatever you want. This post aims to address why not all cheaters are “actually polyamorous”.

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